You want to be desired.

You want to feel wanted.

And sometimes, different people make us feel those things in different ways.

From my perspective, it is possible to experience genuine feelings for more than one person at the same time.

Why?

Because feelings are feedback.

Different people can bring out different parts of us. One person may make us feel understood. Another may make us feel desired. Someone else may remind us of a version of ourselves that we want to explore.

Psychology offers many lenses through which we can understand these experiences: attachment styles, unmet emotional needs, personality, unresolved conflicts, and many more. But understanding which of these applies to you often requires sitting with a psychologist and exploring your story.

For now, let us understand something simpler.

Human beings are emotional creatures capable of reason.

But when emotions become intense, reason often loses its voice.

And when reason loses its voice, temporary feelings can begin making permanent decisions.

That is where we need to pause and remember: Feelings are feedback.

They tell us what is happening within us in response to what is happening around us.

That is why I encourage people to remember four things:

Feel: Feel your feelings.

Sit: Acknowledge them as you sit with them.

Give it time: The feedback they are offering needs to be processed.

Choose: Your actions become your memories. Choose them consciously.

Why?

Because feelings are temporary experiences.

But our choices tend to stay with us much longer.

In my practice, people rarely say:

"I regret what I felt."

More often, they say:

"I wish I had not done what I did..."

"I wish I had talked with someone about it..."

Your feelings are feedback.

Your actions are decisions.

And your decisions have a way of becoming your self-image.

Long after the intensity of a feeling has faded, we continue living with the story of what we did with it.

Because the body remembers.

The mind remembers.

And self-image remembers.

So, how do we distinguish between attraction, infatuation, and love?

Attraction wants immediacy.

"I feel something. I want to move toward it."

Infatuation wants reassurance.

"Tell me this is real. Tell me this will stay."

Love has faith, patience, and the capacity to tolerate uncertainty.

"I do not know what the future holds, but I can remain present while I discover it."

Time often reveals the intensity, depth, and nature of what we are feeling.

Not every feeling is asking to become a relationship.

Sometimes, feelings are simply asking to be understood.

So, if you ever find yourself feeling deeply for more than one person at the same time, acknowledge the feeling. Sit with it. Give it time.

Discover whether it is asking for your heart, or merely seeking your attention.

Lastly:

"Sit with the feeling before you build a future around it."

Your Psychologist,

Ambidextrous Anmol