I don't really have anything to defend here. Neither therapy nor what your friends are experiencing. I simply want to share a few thoughts about how we, as human beings, function.

Whenever we go through a difficult situation, we naturally seek support. If that support comes from a psychologist, and it feels like a safe space where we feel heard and understood, it makes complete sense that we would want to reach out again when life feels heavy.

But this isn't something unique to therapy.

Think about the people in your life. Your parents, siblings, cousins, friends, or partner. If someone consistently offers emotional safety and stands by you during difficult times, you will naturally want to turn to them again. That is simply how we are wired.

When we struggle, we seek connection. We want someone to know that we are going through something difficult. That is a deeply human response.

Coming to the idea of losing independence, I don't think seeking support takes away your independence. Independence exists alongside accountability. As long as a person continues taking responsibility for their own thoughts, choices, and actions, they remain independent.

If someone is going through a crisis and doesn't know what to do next, reaching out for support doesn't mean they have become dependent. It simply means they are in a situation where they don't yet know how to move forward, and they are choosing to seek clarity, perspective, or support to help them through it.

Seeking support is not dependency. It is often one of the ways we take responsibility for our own well-being.

Interestingly, as human beings, we all want to be understood, supported, and cared for. Yet many of us hesitate to ask for that support because doing so requires vulnerability. It asks us to admit that we cannot carry everything on our own.

Perhaps that is the part we struggle with the most. We question whether we should ask for support, even when a part of us already knows we need it.

Your Psychologist,

Ambidextrous Anmol

Somebody recently asked me,

“Why do I keep changing my mind? I get so many ideas. I make a decision with confidence, but, after a few days, I start doubting it. I try to stay focused, but something new always grabs my attention.”

It is a beautiful question.

It reminded me of something we often hear.

People call our mind the monkey mind because it naturally jumps from one thought to another. And honestly, that is not completely bad.

Our brain was never designed to do just one job.

If it had been, we probably would not have survived.

Our brain evolved in environments where survival depended on continuously processing information. Every moment it had to observe what was happening around us. It had to see, hear, smell, feel, and combine all that information to understand whether we were safe or whether there was a threat nearby.

Back then, the environment was full of uncertainty. Today, our lives are much safer in terms of physical safety. But our brain is still operating on many of the same evolutionary principles.

It is constantly scanning for possibilities.

It looks for novelty.

It looks for opportunities.

It keeps asking,

“What if there is something even better?”

This tendency is one of the reasons humanity kept progressing.

Without it, we would not have explored new lands, invented new technologies, questioned old beliefs, or become the modern civilization we are today.

But that is only one side of the story.

Our brain also has another important tendency.

The tendency to commit.

The tendency that values routines, consistency, repetition, and finishing what we started.

Both of these tendencies are necessary.

The challenge begins when one starts dominating the other.

Think about it.

Starting a new project often feels exciting.

Everything is fresh.

Everything feels possible.

Your imagination is fully engaged.

But continuing that same project after some time?

Now the excitement has faded.

The work has become relatively repetitive.

It asks for discipline instead of inspiration.

It asks for consistency instead of curiosity.

That is usually the point where another exciting idea appears because your brain naturally keeps searching for newer possibilities.

But if we only keep exploring, we may never finish anything.

Every project eventually reaches a phase where the thrill fades and the real work begins.

On the other hand, if we never explore and never adapt to changing circumstances, we risk becoming rigid.

One of the greatest reasons human beings have survived is not because we are the strongest species.

It is because we are among the most adaptable.

So our brain keeps doing exactly what it evolved to do.

It gathers new information.

It re-evaluates old decisions.

It searches for better outcomes.

It also seeks certainty, routines, and predictability.

Both systems are trying to help you.

The only problem is that your brain can generate possibilities much faster than you can realistically act on them.

Your brain can think of a hundred futures in a day, but you can only live one day at a time.

That is where maturity comes in.

Maturity in evaluating them, choosing the ones that are most likely to benefit you, and committing to them long enough to see results.

If, during that journey, genuinely better information appears, adapt.

That adaptability is one of our greatest strengths.

The point is to keep moving.

Because if you only keep planning, you may never build.

And if you only keep building without adapting, what you build may eventually become outdated.

Life asks us to do both.

This is why routines and discipline do not restrict your freedom.

They protect your attention.

They make sure your ideas actually become reality.

Your brain will continue giving you new thoughts.

New possibilities.

New directions.

That is its job.

But you do not have to act on every thought your mind produces.

Some ideas deserve a notebook.

Some deserve a conversation.

A few deserve a place on your calendar.

And only a handful deserve your full commitment.

While this sounds like choosing, let me tell you, life is not about choosing between exploration and consistency.

It is about learning when to explore...

...and when to stay long enough for something meaningful to grow.

Because your mind’s job is to generate possibilities.

Your job is to prioritize and choose the possibilities that have the highest chance of benefiting you, and stay consistent with them long enough for the results to appear.