Yes! You heard that right.
I believe good siblings are no less than god’s gifts. You get a companion even before you understand compatibility.
However, as siblings grow together, comparisons are obvious.
However, the unobvious thing is the consequence of that comparison.
I was traveling on a train and saw people comparing two siblings right in front of me. What they failed to see were the consequences, which were visible to me.
I don’t think it takes a Psychologist to see the “inferior sibling’s” sadness when the “superior” one gets all the attention and appreciation out of that comparison.
Superior? Inferior?
Well, that’s what people make themselves feel when they appreciate one, and the other stands silent…
Who knows what’s going on in the mind of that sibling...
We know s/he won’t be feeling good, but have we ever thought about what feelings they would have to deal with alone while the parents proudly present the “pride sibling” to others?
When questioned about the “self-sidelined sibling,” the parents become concerned instead of being compassionate.
There will be such a story in every house!
Why?
How am I so sure that such a story would be in every house?
Because of a LACK OF AWARENESS!
Won’t you agree?
Don’t you know such a sibling around you? Or maybe within you?
If you do, then what change would you like to make?
Because we are responsible for it. It’s us who they need to get better, even when no one was there for us—saving them from becoming victims of low self-esteem, worthlessness, and so much more that affects their future.
The best way to break the cycle is by truly understanding its impact.
If this resonates with you, perhaps it’s time to explore these uneasy emotions with someone who sees beyond the comparisons—someone who actively listens to understand, facilitates your navigation through all that wasn’t your fault, and assists you in becoming the best version of yourself.
Your Psychologist,
Ambidextrous Anmol
