Usually in my posts, I encourage people to seek help but...
Recently, someone asked me,
“Do you really think asking for help is that easy?”
I agree.
It is not easy.
It is hard to admit you are struggling.
Hard to lower your guard.
Hard to risk being misunderstood.
Hard to say, “I need support.”
Many of us were shamed for these things.
As if needing support made us less capable.
As if being human was a flaw.
Somewhere along the way, society began celebrating the image of the strong, independent adult.
But, many of those strong, independent adults are suffering...
The whole society is struggling.
But we hide behind competence.
Behind the mask.
Behind productivity.
Then comes isolation, which is painful.
Even inside your four walls, it is painful.
Even if no one is watching, it hurts that no one is witnessing.
It hurts that no one knows what you are carrying...
Asking for help asks us to step out of that isolation.
And yes, that is hard.
But suffering alone is also hard.
Carrying the weight silently is hard.
Pretending you are okay while slowly exhausting yourself is hard. (“I’m fine” we say to avoid making the conversation get real)
Trying to survive alone when you are built to survive alongside other humans is hard.
And the truth is, we are social human beings not by preference but by evolution, by design, by biology written into our very structure. Our nervous systems regulate in safe connection. Our resilience strengthens when we are witnessed. Healing is supported when we share what feels unbearable alone. We are not constructed to endure everything in isolation, even if culture sometimes rewards that illusion.
So no, asking for help is not easy, but neither is suffering alone. That is why I encourage seeking help. Reaching out to trusted people. Reaching out to professionals. Because support is not a luxury for humans, it is part of how we survive and how we heal.
Your Psychologist,
Ambidextrous Anmol
