“Fake it until you make it.”
You must have heard this, may also have tried, maybe that had worked maybe not...
Something similar is happening with those people who pretend to be strong, there can be two things:
1) Making things:
like they are working on themselves, creating a belief that they are strong, they would be able to handle adversities... That’s healthy as it is not exactly pretending it’s like one trying to become what one wanna become.
Maybe a person was broken from the inside, but in this way, they are healing as they are working on themselves and thus making themselves strong.
2) Faking Things:
like they are pretending so that others don’t get to know that they are weak... you know, insecurities! Fear of being vulnerable makes them to fake they are strong even when they are not. The most important thing is working on yourself, if one is not working, just faking/pretending that’s the unhealthiest thing!How many of you fear being vulnerable?
Ahh, what am I asking, most people do, isn’t that very obvious!
Lemme share with you one thing about me, I am not afraid of being vulnerable.
Being vulnerable doesn’t make one weak or anything like that for the whole life, dude that’s JUST A PHASE!
If you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you will be vulnerable only for that phase of your life.
If not then you were vulnerable, you are vulnerable and you would be vulnerable only, nothing gonna change as you are not trying to.
Being vulnerable is okay!
That’s just a phase and since you are working on yourself then why fear being vulnerable!
Today I guess it's a bit of a self-disclosure day:
So was a very emotional and highly sensitive person, tears just used to roll out of my eyes on small things.
IMPORTANT- I’m still a very emotional and sensitive person it’s just that I worked on myself and made these two things my BIGGEST STRENGTH.
Yes, they are my strengths. I’m a Psychology Person, and being emotional & sensitive helps me to understand and connect with people at a deeper level.
I had been vulnerable loads of times, I had cried a lot of times in front of others... and I am proud of all that, why am I proud?
I EXPRESSED MYSELF!
When we don’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we are not expressing ourselves, we are not being what we are, we are just pretending, faking... which is of no good!
If you are not you, how you can be what you wanna be?
If you wanna be strong, you need to be aware of what you are right now!
If you are weak right now, accept it, don’t let your ego limit you!
Accepting that you are weak right now won’t make you weak for your whole life!
This is just a phase; you can come out of it and you can be strong!
Acceptance is called the first step of transformation.
Being vulnerable is an uncomfortable state but being vulnerable in front of your close ones, the people whom you trust, with whom you can share your things, the ones who know you inside-out… with them, it’s not that uncomfortable.
At times we need to go through uncomfortable situations, here this uncomfortable situation gonna be beneficial.
So, look for your supporting people, the people who are with you in your highs and lows, the people who encourage you to reach your potential… start connecting with them and you shall not feel afraid of expressing yourself or being vulnerable in front of them. they are your people!
We are ourselves with our people and that's the right thing.
Who can be in your “Personal Support Group”?
Anyone who genuinely supports!
